{"product_id":"we-always-fight","title":"We Always Fight","description":"\u003cp class=\"sub\"\u003eHow to stop the same old arguments, talk without hurting each other, and feel close again.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eDoes any of this sound familiar?\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cul class=\"symptoms\"\u003e\n  \u003cli\u003eYou could both perform the argument from memory.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003cli\u003eIt starts over a plate and ends over something from four years ago.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003cli\u003eOne of you escalates and the other goes silent, every single time.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003cli\u003eYou win, and it feels worse than losing.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003cli\u003eYou have started avoiding the subjects instead of the fights.\u003c\/li\u003e\n\u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"twoup\"\u003e\n  \u003cdiv class=\"panel pos\"\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhat this book is\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA practical book about how couples argue: what is really being fought about, what makes it worse in the first ninety seconds, and how to repair afterwards so it does not pile up.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n  \u003cdiv class=\"panel\"\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eWhat it is not\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cp\u003eA method for never arguing again. Couples who last are not the ones who do not fight; they are the ones who repair.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003ch2\u003eWhat is inside\u003c\/h2\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart I.\u003c\/strong\u003e Why we fight: what is underneath the argument, the four things most fights are really about, and your part in the pattern.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart II.\u003c\/strong\u003e What makes fights worse: the first ninety seconds, flooding, the words that end the conversation, and silence as a weapon.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart III.\u003c\/strong\u003e Fighting better: how to start, how to listen when you do not want to, pausing without walking out, and repairing afterwards.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart IV.\u003c\/strong\u003e The hot topics: money, chores, family, jealousy, and sex.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cstrong\u003ePart V.\u003c\/strong\u003e Feeling close again: the small rituals that do more than any apology.\u003c\/p\u003e\n\u003cdiv class=\"twoup\"\u003e\n  \u003cdiv class=\"panel pos\"\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eBuy it if\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eYou have the same fight on a loop and want the loop broken.\u003c\/li\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eYou want to say the hard thing without a casualty.\u003c\/li\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eYou are both still trying.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n  \u003cdiv class=\"panel\"\u003e\n\u003ch3\u003eDo not buy it if\u003c\/h3\u003e\n\u003cul\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eYou want to be proved right.\u003c\/li\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eYou are the only one willing to change anything.\u003c\/li\u003e\n    \u003cli\u003eThe fights include fear, threats or violence. That is a different book.\u003c\/li\u003e\n  \u003c\/ul\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003c\/div\u003e\n\u003cp\u003e\u003cem\u003e321 pages. Read the first part together, if you can.\u003c\/em\u003e\u003c\/p\u003e","brand":"Mike Love","offers":[{"title":"English","offer_id":57574338625876,"sku":"ML-WAF-EN","price":9.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true},{"title":"Italiano","offer_id":57574338658644,"sku":"ML-WAF-IT","price":9.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true},{"title":"Français","offer_id":57574338691412,"sku":"ML-WAF-FR","price":9.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true},{"title":"Español","offer_id":57574338724180,"sku":"ML-WAF-ES","price":9.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true},{"title":"Deutsch","offer_id":57574338756948,"sku":"ML-WAF-DE","price":9.0,"currency_code":"GBP","in_stock":true}],"thumbnail_url":"\/\/cdn.shopify.com\/s\/files\/1\/1072\/7781\/2052\/files\/cover-fight-EN_5a6922b7-060c-4338-81d3-1b626332d498.jpg?v=1791891316","url":"https:\/\/iooli.com\/products\/we-always-fight","provider":"Mike Love","version":"1.0","type":"link"}