Mike Love
Afraid
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A behaviour is not the same as proof.The sentence this whole book is built on.
From the author
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The same voice as the book, shorter.
When your partner's anger scares you: how to recognise danger, protect yourself, and find a way out.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You check his mood before you decide what to say.
- You have started apologising for things you did not do, to keep the evening quiet.
- You tell your friends a shorter version of what happened at home.
- Nothing has been broken yet, and you still flinch at a raised hand.
- You have thought about leaving, and then thought about what leaving would cost.
What this book is
A clear book about fear in a relationship: what anger is, where abuse begins, and what you can do while you are still there, written to be read quickly and quietly.
What it is not
A judgment on your partner or on you, and not a reason to act tonight if acting tonight is not safe. Three chapters are about exactly that: how to protect yourself without triggering the worst.
What is inside
Part I. Fear in a relationship: is it normal to be afraid, where anger ends and abuse begins, intimidation without a single blow, when it becomes physical, and the highest danger signs.
Part II. Inside the fear: what fear does to your body, walking on eggshells, the voice that says it is your fault, and the many shapes fear takes.
Part III. Protecting yourself now: staying safer while you are still there, what to do during an incident, what to do after, children who live with fear, and telling someone.
Part IV. Finding a way out: why leaving is the most dangerous time, the day you leave, and staying safe afterwards.
Part V. Living without fear: when fear stays in the body, trusting yourself again, and love without fear.
Buy it if
- You have started organising your life around someone else's temper.
- You want to know, plainly, where the line is.
- You want a plan that does not depend on him changing.
Do not buy it if
- You are in danger right now. Then call your emergency number first, and read later.
- You want advice on how to keep him calm forever. That is not a plan, it is a cage.
- You are looking for proof to show someone else.
336 pages. It opens with the phone numbers, not with a sales page.
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If you are afraid of your partner, start somewhere else.
If you have been threatened, hurt or controlled, or you think that raising this could put you or your children at risk, contact your local emergency number or a domestic violence service before anything else. Your safety comes before any question these books discuss.