Mike Love
Codependent
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A behaviour is not the same as proof.The sentence this whole book is built on.
How to stop losing yourself in love, set boundaries, and love without disappearing.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You know their schedule better than your own.
- Saying no costs you two days of guilt.
- You are tired in a way that sleep does not fix.
- Your friends have stopped inviting you, because you always cancel.
- If they are not fine, you are not allowed to be fine.
What this book is
A book about the pattern underneath: why helping became your whole role, why you keep choosing people who need fixing, and how to stay close to someone without vanishing into them.
What it is not
A label to pin on yourself. Chapter one is about what codependency is not, because half of what the internet calls codependency is simply caring about someone.
What is inside
Part I. Understanding emotional dependency: what it is and what it is not, when love feels like a drug, where it comes from, the people-pleaser and the rescuer.
Part II. Inside the pattern: losing yourself, waiting and checking, why you keep choosing unavailable people, addiction in the house, and when dependency keeps you somewhere harmful.
Part III. Breaking the pattern: detachment with love, boundaries, the guilt and the urge to fix, and getting support.
Part IV. Coming back to yourself: who you are when you are not taking care of someone, self-worth without approval, your own needs, and being alone without feeling abandoned.
Part V. Loving without disappearing: healthy closeness, and choosing differently next time.
Buy it if
- You give more than you get and call it love.
- You want to say no without a two-day hangover.
- You want to stay in the relationship as a person, not as a service.
Do not buy it if
- You want to change the other one. This book is about your half.
- You are hoping for permission to leave. That decision stays yours.
- You want a quick fix. Boundaries are a habit, not a trick.
322 pages, twenty chapters, and a lot of practice.
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If you have been threatened, hurt or controlled, or you think that raising this could put you or your children at risk, contact your local emergency number or a domestic violence service before anything else. Your safety comes before any question these books discuss.