Mike Love
Narcissist
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A behaviour is not the same as proof.The sentence this whole book is built on.
From the author
Half a minute on this
The same voice as the book, shorter.
How to recognise a narcissistic partner, break free, and heal your self-worth.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- The beginning was the best thing that ever happened to you. That is part of the problem.
- Every conversation ends with you apologising.
- Your version of events keeps getting corrected.
- You have slowly stopped seeing the people who knew you before.
- You feel like the difficult one, and nobody outside the house would believe it.
What this book is
A careful book about a word the internet has worn out: what narcissism is in a relationship, what the cycle feels like from inside, and how people get out and recover.
What it is not
A diagnosis. It names behaviours, not people, and it is honest about the difference between a selfish partner, a difficult one, and a dangerous one.
What is inside
Part I. Understanding narcissism: what it is, what it is not, where it comes from, and the forms it takes in a couple.
Part II. Inside the relationship: idealisation, devaluation, the cycle that keeps you waiting, and what it does to your sense of reality.
Part III. Protecting yourself: what to stop explaining, what to write down, and how to hold a limit with someone who does not accept limits.
Part IV. Breaking free: planning it, the discard and the hoover, and why going back is so common.
Part V. Healing your self-worth: getting your own judgment back, and loving again without bracing for it.
Buy it if
- You keep leaving conversations unsure what just happened.
- You want to name it, because you cannot explain it to anyone yet.
- You have left and still feel like the guilty one.
Do not buy it if
- You want a label to win an argument.
- You want to diagnose someone from a list.
- You are afraid of them physically. Read Afraid first.
326 pages. It is careful with the word, and that is the point.
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If you are afraid of your partner, start somewhere else.
If you have been threatened, hurt or controlled, or you think that raising this could put you or your children at risk, contact your local emergency number or a domestic violence service before anything else. Your safety comes before any question these books discuss.