Mike Love
Relationship Rescue
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A behaviour is not the same as proof.The sentence this whole book is built on.
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How to stop the same fights, rebuild trust and closeness, and save your relationship before it is too late.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- You have the same argument every week, with different words.
- You are polite with each other, and somehow that is worse than shouting.
- One of you raises it and the other goes quiet.
- You cannot remember the last time you laughed together.
- You have started imagining the conversation where it ends.
What this book is
A twenty-one day plan with a chapter for each piece of the work: stopping the damage, repairing the bond, and building a way of living together that does not grind you both down.
What it is not
Couples therapy, and it does not pretend every relationship should be saved. Two of the chapters are about recognising when it should not be.
What is inside
Part I. What went wrong: how good relationships get into trouble, a check-up you can take together, the four silent killers, the dance you keep dancing, and what each of you actually needs.
Days 1-7. Stopping the damage: calling a ceasefire, breaking the loop of the same fight, how to talk so your partner can listen and listen so they feel heard.
Days 8-14. Repairing the bond: the repair toolkit, rebuilding trust step by step, bringing back friendship, fun and touch, and desire in a long relationship.
Days 15-21. A new way of living together: money, chores and the mental load, family and children, stress and the outside world, and rituals of connection.
Part V. When rescue needs help, or ends: when one of you wants out, what couples therapy is really like, and when it is time to let go.
And then. Appendices with the myths about saving a relationship, the plan at a glance, scripts, a glossary and where to get help.
Buy it if
- You are both still trying, even badly.
- You keep having the same fight and want it to stop.
- You want to decide with your eyes open rather than drift.
Do not buy it if
- You are the only one willing to do anything.
- You are looking for techniques to change your partner.
- There is fear, control or violence. Then this is the wrong book, and Chapter 20 says so.
334 pages, twenty chapters, a twenty-one day plan.
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If you are afraid of your partner, start somewhere else.
If you have been threatened, hurt or controlled, or you think that raising this could put you or your children at risk, contact your local emergency number or a domestic violence service before anything else. Your safety comes before any question these books discuss.