Mike Love
Toxic
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A behaviour is not the same as proof.The sentence this whole book is built on.
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The same voice as the book, shorter.
How to recognise a toxic relationship, get out safely, and rebuild your life.
Does any of this sound familiar?
- The good days are very good, and that is what keeps you.
- You explain your relationship to other people more carefully than you used to.
- You have a list of subjects you do not raise.
- You feel smaller than you did two years ago.
- You have left in your head many times.
What this book is
A book about the relationships that are not violent and not fine: how they work, why intelligent people stay, how to leave without making it worse, and what the months after look like.
What it is not
A rule that every difficult relationship should end. Part two is the honest look at why you stay, and some of those reasons are good ones.
What is inside
Part I. Recognising a toxic relationship: the patterns, the highs and lows, and the difference between a bad patch and a bad arrangement.
Part II. Why you stay: the hope, the history, the money, the children, and the story you have told everyone.
Part III. Getting out safely: preparing, timing, what to say, and what not to announce in advance.
Part IV. After you leave: the pull to go back, contact you cannot avoid, and the first hard months.
Part V. Rebuilding your life: your people, your confidence, and what you will not accept next time.
Buy it if
- You are not in danger, but you are not all right either.
- You want to decide with your eyes open instead of drifting.
- You have left before and gone back, and you want to understand why.
Do not buy it if
- You want someone to tell you to leave. That is your call.
- You want to fix them.
- There is violence or there are threats. Read Afraid: it is written for that.
328 pages, twenty chapters, and no cheerleading.
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If you are afraid of your partner, start somewhere else.
If you have been threatened, hurt or controlled, or you think that raising this could put you or your children at risk, contact your local emergency number or a domestic violence service before anything else. Your safety comes before any question these books discuss.